How to gracefully handle not being invited to a wedding

Dear Miss Manners: I have taken note of repeat inquiries about how to deal with not being invited to a wedding — presumably, though not always in so many words, without being a jerk in return.

I would like to point out that weddings have gotten exceedingly expensive and that couples simply cannot afford to invite everyone to the reception. In many cases, it is still the bride's family who pays, and they may have to take on extensive debt to do so.

It is important to remember that not being invited to a wedding does not reflect on your worth as a person. The couple may have had to make tough decisions about their guest list due to budget constraints or venue limitations.

Instead of feeling hurt or offended, try to understand the couple's situation and graciously accept their decision. Remember that weddings are a personal and intimate affair, and the couple may have valid reasons for not inviting you.

If you feel close enough to the couple, you may consider reaching out to express your congratulations and well wishes. This gesture can show that you understand and respect their decision, even if you are not attending the wedding.

Ultimately, it is important to prioritize the couple's happiness and celebrate their love, even if you are not able to do so in person at the wedding. Remember that relationships are more valuable than invitations, and your support and understanding will mean more to the couple than your physical presence at the event.